Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

How should we lead our lives?

March 7, 2010

From a Facebook thread:


Tiger Woods isn’t just a great golfer and a sex addict—he’s a drug addict, too, according to the National Enquirer. Woods “blamed a lot of his cheating behavior on his drug addiction, saying that the drugs were responsible for impairing his judgment,” but wife Elin Nordegren isn’t buying it. The tabloid says his problem is with two substances, which Fanhouse reports are a prescription painkiller and Ambien. Meanwhile, Gatorade said today it’s dropping its onetime stalwart, the AP reports.

Considering he’s in seclusion in Arizona, Tiger’s been busy. His lawyers have scotched the risqué PETA ad using him as an example of why “too much sex can be a bad thing,” TMZ reports. And he’s received encouraging phone calls from both President Obama and Bill Clinton, Golf Digest reports in a lengthy takeout on the scandal and the fallout.


Tiger had drug problems? Well, whatever he was using he should package cause, well, he sure performed well — and not in a sport that just requires muscle.


According to the article at the link, Ambien (zolpidem) was one of the drugs. I take it myself but only one pill per day. I have one friend who overmedicated regularly with zolpidem and alprazolam (Xanax). Her speech would become quite slurred at times. She has suffered from major depression as well as occasional bulemia since her early teens. She got off the Xanax and Ambien. Now she is back on lithium.

I rather imagine that Tiger had no normal childhood because he displayed his talent at such an early age. The fame, physical beauty, wealth and youth are the really difficult drugs to handle. One begins to abuse alcohol and medications simply to handle the real problems and I suppose the constant fear of losing the fame.


Like 85% of the athletes in the U.S. aren’t drug users.


We can certainly choose to structure our life as an LCD or norm of what the majority around us do which may or may not lead to happiness but will at least be justifiable. OR we can choose some path for ourselves based upon what a minority of prudent people have chosen to do throughout history and perhaps influence the lives of 85% of the people will be influenced by our choices; and that would definitely be leadership. Life, liberty and the PURSUIT of happiness is a wide open statement about freedom and human rights which does not automatically result in happiness. Like Sartre says, we are doomed to be free.


Happiness and Regret

August 17, 2009

Someone I know wrote: is wishing she had savored that moment. I thought it would come again, that feeling, so I did not hold onto it when I had the chance.

And I asked her:

Is this some song lyrics?

I mean, every moment, once it is gone, is like that.

I think about all the years during my childhood when I could have done so much reading,…. but I was not prepared for it. I was not the same person then that I am now.

I think about the 3 years with my girlfriend in college, and how things might possibly have gone differently…. but I was not the person then that I am now. If I had known then what I know now, perhaps I would have lived my life an entirely different way! But that is pointless, because I cannot turn back the clock, and I could not know then what I know now, and furthermore,,…. if my life had gone in a different direction, then I would not necessarily be the person I am today and know what I know.

And no matter how many months or years of success, sweetness, fortune, fame, love that we have, when its gone, when its over, then all we have are the memories, and sometimes the memory of having had great happiness and then losing it makes us more miserable than if we had never known happiness at all.