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Child Marriage

November 5, 2010

The LONG American movie “Gandhi” is inaccurate for good reason when it states that Mohandas and Kasturbai were married at age 12. Americans could not deal with the truth. According to Gandhi’s autobiography “Experiments in Truth” Gandhi was married to Kasturbai at age 6. All he knew was that there would be a new suit of cloths, lots of food to eat and a new playmate (for the bride comes to live with the groom’s parents.) When Mohandas was around the age of 12 his uncle told him he must now sleep with his wife and gave him instructions on what is expected. That night Kasturbai seemed to know exactly what to do. All his life Gandhi wondered WHO it was in the family that instructed Kasturbai but he never had the temerity to ask her.

Once the Shah of Iran was overthrown then one of the first things the Ayatollah did was lower the marriage age of girls from sixteen to nine, BECAUSE the Prophet married Aiyesha at age SIX and consummated the marriage at age 9. I have asked several friends in Tehran if they ever see a nine year old bride. They have seen some as young as 13 but apparently you have to go among the nomadic tribes to find a child bride. A female child is seen as a liability and a responsibility to marry them off properly and prevent them from experiencing things outside of marriage which would be “haram.”


A Facebook Reading of Cavafy’s Poem 1903

August 6, 2010

Nice reading, Charlie! I discovered Cavafy when I read Lawrence Durrell’s “The Alexandrian Quartet: Justine, Balthazar, Mountolive and Clea.”

I just now found this link:

I do not often see these books for sale in the bookstores of NYC. Once I found Balthazar at Strand’s for $1, bought it and re-read it.

Last year I read something about Cavafy’s death. Cavafy was born into a Greek Orthodox Christian family. I think a high ranking bishop came to his death-bed.

I just found this great link

I can read the Greek portion of the poem the way a modern Greek speaker might read it. I should practice and do a Youtube video. I am a bit rusty with my modern Greek.

We are all somehow seeking to regain some past experience which perhaps shall never come to us again because we are no longer as young, no longer naive and inexperienced. If we are wise we shall realize the vanity of our dreams and shall settle upon a more realistic but less exotic experience but an experience which is there for us every day, within reach, and not a figment which haunts our fantasies.

First Crush School Sweetheart Sign Language

May 20, 2010

From Facebook thread –

Mary Clark likes:

When my sister was younger she came home from school one day and demanded I take her to the library so she could get books on sign language. I asked why? She told me there was a new kid at school who was deaf and she wanted to befriend him. Today I stood beside her at their wedding watching her sign.

Flirting at Victoria’s Secret

March 29, 2010
I learned that guys go to Victoria’s Secret with their girl friend and while the g/f is browsing they actually HIT on the attractive sales associates (who gossip about this widespread phenomenon amongst themselves).
A bit of a shock, yet being a male who has heard “male-tales” for 50 years, I am not surprised. I am the one who first said “All men are dogs; but some dogs are Lassie.”

My young friend is intellectually brilliant, charming and also drop-dead gorgeous so I said “You must get ‘hit on’ all the time. How do you deal with it?” Then she told  the Victoria’s Secret gossip. Apparently,   American men are particularly guilty of such forwardness. It is sad that they so easily treat someone as an object, because they lose out on having an interesting friend and conversationalist when their first move is to lay their cards on the table like that. No sensible woman will be gullible enough to play that hand unless they are inexperienced or desperate. It is easier to make a friend into a lover than to make a lover into a friend. I read that in a Gloria Steinhem book on Self-Esteem.