I am not certain that “forgiveness” or “I’m sorry” have any real meaning.
Perhaps it is more accurate to say “forgetting” in the sense of putting something behind us so that it does not consume our every waking moment’s thoughts.

Reform Rabbi Harold Kushner (author of popular books like “When Everything You Ever Wanted Isn’t Enough” and “When Bad Things Happen To Good People”) once counselled a woman who had for 20 years nursed a grudge against her ex who abandoned her to raise three children. Kushner explained that when we hold on to anger and resentment then in a way we let our enemy win since they have a hold on us. He likened it to the Nazi injustices saying that if one never lets go then in a sense they are letting the Nazis remain in their life. I once spoke to an Australian Aborigine about the practice of shooting Aborigines for sport which was outlawed only in the 1930s. He acknowledged that this is true but added with a palpable air of equanimity that the Aborigines harbor no bitterness over the past.

Is Schadenfreude halachic?

Re: Schadenfreude: “Rejoice not when thine enemy falleth, and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth: Lest the LORD see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him.” Proverbs 24:17–18
What joy it is, when out at sea the storm winds are lashing the waters, to gaze from the shore at the heavy stress some other man is enduring! Not that anyone’s afflictions are in themselves a source of delight; but to realize from what troubles you yourself are free is joy indeed. What joy, again, to watch opposing hosts marshaled on the field of battle when you have yourself no part in their peril! But this is the greatest joy of all: to possess a quiet sanctuary, stoutly fortified by the teaching of the wise, and to gaze down from that elevation on others wandering aimlessly in search of a way of life, pitting their wits one against another, disputing for precedence, struggling night and day with unstinted effort to scale the pinnacles of wealth and power. O joyless hearts of men! O minds without vision! How dark and dangerous the life in which this tiny span is lived away! Do you not see that nature is barking for two things only, a body free from pain, a mind released from worry and fear for the enjoyment of pleasurable sensations?
Lucretius — On the Nature of Things, Book II

Joseph Campbell mentions someone like Cotton Mather stating that “one of the joys of heaven will be to gaze down into the suffering pit of hell and realize that one is in heaven.” The following post comes to mind but does not document the above quote:

But here:

Some Evangelicals I’ve met have told me that one of the “joys of Heaven” is to look down from this heavenly choir, to see Mormons (and all others who rejected Evangelicalism) burning in Hell for all eternity; crying to God in torture but receiving no mercy.



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